Repulsion
I've always thought that I am someone whom no one has problems getting along with. So it was pretty surprising for me to be actually repelled by another person today.
When I reach the worship hall in the morning, I saw one of the girls who does bible study with our cell on Friday nights sitting with another lady from her cell. Since the others have not arrived yet, I went to their row to sit with her.
As I got closer to them, the other lady 1) notice my coming, 2) told my friend something, 3) stood up, 4) took her bag and 5) moved to a seat much further away from us. I saw it from the corner of my eye and noted the gesture. My friend was taken by surprised by the lady's action, and kept looking at the direction that she headed to.
It was an awkward situation. I didn't want to make it more uncomfortable for my friend, so I pretended nothing happen, and didn't say anything to her. Fortunately, the worship started, and the awkwardness slipped away.
As I worship, I told God, I didn't do anything to her, it is unfortunate that she responded in that manner to me. However, for the same reason, I do not think I should blame myself for "scaring" her off. She made a choice, she behaved in that manner, so she will be responsible for what she did.
I have always thought that lady didn't like me when I was first introduced to them. Her cell leader was the one who gave me +a tap on the shoulder+, and I had joined them for lunch at a nearby hawker centre thereafter. Her body language has already indicated to me that she doesn't welcome me to join them, and she left quickly after finishing her lunch, while the rest of us stayed around.
Subsequently, whenever I see her before or after the worship service, I would try to give her a smile. But she would give me a stare and pretend that I am transparent. So, I told myself, "OOokayy... I guess somebody doesn't like me..."
Since then, I concluded that she is probably offended by my intrusion to her small, cosy group. Maybe she thinks I am a threat for taking away all her friends.
Semonr learnt today: Let those who boast, boast in the Lord.
And, let those who sensed that they are unwelcome be sensitive not to let it happen again.
When I reach the worship hall in the morning, I saw one of the girls who does bible study with our cell on Friday nights sitting with another lady from her cell. Since the others have not arrived yet, I went to their row to sit with her.
As I got closer to them, the other lady 1) notice my coming, 2) told my friend something, 3) stood up, 4) took her bag and 5) moved to a seat much further away from us. I saw it from the corner of my eye and noted the gesture. My friend was taken by surprised by the lady's action, and kept looking at the direction that she headed to.
It was an awkward situation. I didn't want to make it more uncomfortable for my friend, so I pretended nothing happen, and didn't say anything to her. Fortunately, the worship started, and the awkwardness slipped away.
As I worship, I told God, I didn't do anything to her, it is unfortunate that she responded in that manner to me. However, for the same reason, I do not think I should blame myself for "scaring" her off. She made a choice, she behaved in that manner, so she will be responsible for what she did.
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I have always thought that lady didn't like me when I was first introduced to them. Her cell leader was the one who gave me +a tap on the shoulder+, and I had joined them for lunch at a nearby hawker centre thereafter. Her body language has already indicated to me that she doesn't welcome me to join them, and she left quickly after finishing her lunch, while the rest of us stayed around.
Subsequently, whenever I see her before or after the worship service, I would try to give her a smile. But she would give me a stare and pretend that I am transparent. So, I told myself, "OOokayy... I guess somebody doesn't like me..."
Since then, I concluded that she is probably offended by my intrusion to her small, cosy group. Maybe she thinks I am a threat for taking away all her friends.
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Semonr learnt today: Let those who boast, boast in the Lord.
And, let those who sensed that they are unwelcome be sensitive not to let it happen again.
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