About Being Picky and Prickly
While we were doing people watching on Friday night, JA made a comment which I thought was pretty true.
"Singaporean men has gotten all soft. There is no longer the 'MAN' in them" was her comment. She went on to say that she has observed that many of the Singaporean men like to act cute in front of their girlfriends, and we agreed that they are looking like those pathetic male leads in the Korean and Taiwanese tv series. When they are with their girlfriends, they do all they can to sweet talk them, pretending to be the innocent puppy. The male traits - being a protector and a decision maker, seemed to have disappeared from the local men. All the gallantry, the gentlemen... all gone.
I thought it is probably because the Singaporean girls have become independent, thus, the men can no longer exhibit their +manliness. It seems that the more independent the girls/women/ladies are, the softer the men becomes. They are unable to be the stronger man that the girls need, and I guess they decided to choose the alternate route of going soft.
On that count, I would agree with the common saying that Singaporean girls are getting more picky. On one hand, we want our men to be sensitive to our needs (hence the invention of the SNAG). On the other hand, we want our men to stand up as the Master of the Our Universe when we need/want them to. Or so it seems.
HOWEVER, it's unfortunate to note too, that the local men are not making their efforts to increase their God-given masculine elements. Sloppy dressing, inability to hold the doors for anyone (see more in my "The Pathetic Race called Singapore Men (especially Single Ones)" blog), and other mommy's-boy behaviour left nothing to be desired for.
So whose court is the ball at in the local scene of dating?
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I think tonight I had the worse behaviour that truly sends the alarm of Spinsterhood lighting up.
Tonight is the umpteenth time I argued with my family member over the television programme to watch.
The Victim: My mother
The Case: Channel 8's Ugly Betty or Channel 5's My Friendly Neigbourhood
My mom did mentioned to us earlier that she wanted to watch something on Channel 8 at 1030pm, but I didn't thought she mean it, because she always turns in early nowadays. So I happily switched the channel after the the 10pm news. She wanted to watch her show, I insisted on Ugly Betty. I got angry and switched back to channel 8, and said with contempt "Ok, watch it." I guessed she got pretty pissed off with my attitude and turned off the tv after 5 mins, returning to her room.
As I was watching Ugly Betty-America's Next Top Model, I thought to myself that I am going to get a new tv set and move the old one into my room, and did some mental calculations of the costs of the new tv set. Then the thoughts gradually evolved to conversations to myself, in my head.
"Was it necessary for you to blow your top like that?"
"It's just TV, for heaven's sake! You can always watch it from the internet. Why are you acting like a demanding teenager?"
"You are acting up because you have nothing else to do on a Sunday night, 'cept for watching TV huh? You are pathetic."
"You pathetic spinster. Things would definitely look differently if you are seeing someone now."
"That's right. You have finally reached the place where you've feared the most. You ARE a spinster now. Behaving pretty much like one too."
"I would have to be more active in my prowling now."
"Go get them! You have to get SOMEONE!"
"I don't want to BE A SPINSTER! I definetely don't want to act like one! God help me! Please!"
And so, it became clear to me that I had driven myself up Spinsterlane, and the first ones to get hit by me are my family, 'cos I don't show much of the real me when I am with my friends.
And you know what? I hated myself for behaving so immaturely. It was uncalled for, and certainly, not the most pleasant thing about me, who seemed like a nice girl to everyone in the world, 'cept my own family.
I must resolved this. I don't want it to argue with my family over minute things like that anymore.
But I really don't have any solutions to the no-dating situation. There's nothing much I can do.
I can only PRAY.
"Singaporean men has gotten all soft. There is no longer the 'MAN' in them" was her comment. She went on to say that she has observed that many of the Singaporean men like to act cute in front of their girlfriends, and we agreed that they are looking like those pathetic male leads in the Korean and Taiwanese tv series. When they are with their girlfriends, they do all they can to sweet talk them, pretending to be the innocent puppy. The male traits - being a protector and a decision maker, seemed to have disappeared from the local men. All the gallantry, the gentlemen... all gone.
I thought it is probably because the Singaporean girls have become independent, thus, the men can no longer exhibit their +manliness. It seems that the more independent the girls/women/ladies are, the softer the men becomes. They are unable to be the stronger man that the girls need, and I guess they decided to choose the alternate route of going soft.
On that count, I would agree with the common saying that Singaporean girls are getting more picky. On one hand, we want our men to be sensitive to our needs (hence the invention of the SNAG). On the other hand, we want our men to stand up as the Master of the Our Universe when we need/want them to. Or so it seems.
HOWEVER, it's unfortunate to note too, that the local men are not making their efforts to increase their God-given masculine elements. Sloppy dressing, inability to hold the doors for anyone (see more in my "The Pathetic Race called Singapore Men (especially Single Ones)" blog), and other mommy's-boy behaviour left nothing to be desired for.
So whose court is the ball at in the local scene of dating?
- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -
I think tonight I had the worse behaviour that truly sends the alarm of Spinsterhood lighting up.
Tonight is the umpteenth time I argued with my family member over the television programme to watch.
The Victim: My mother
The Case: Channel 8's Ugly Betty or Channel 5's My Friendly Neigbourhood
My mom did mentioned to us earlier that she wanted to watch something on Channel 8 at 1030pm, but I didn't thought she mean it, because she always turns in early nowadays. So I happily switched the channel after the the 10pm news. She wanted to watch her show, I insisted on Ugly Betty. I got angry and switched back to channel 8, and said with contempt "Ok, watch it." I guessed she got pretty pissed off with my attitude and turned off the tv after 5 mins, returning to her room.
As I was watching Ugly Betty-America's Next Top Model, I thought to myself that I am going to get a new tv set and move the old one into my room, and did some mental calculations of the costs of the new tv set. Then the thoughts gradually evolved to conversations to myself, in my head.
"Was it necessary for you to blow your top like that?"
"It's just TV, for heaven's sake! You can always watch it from the internet. Why are you acting like a demanding teenager?"
"You are acting up because you have nothing else to do on a Sunday night, 'cept for watching TV huh? You are pathetic."
"You pathetic spinster. Things would definitely look differently if you are seeing someone now."
"That's right. You have finally reached the place where you've feared the most. You ARE a spinster now. Behaving pretty much like one too."
"I would have to be more active in my prowling now."
"Go get them! You have to get SOMEONE!"
"I don't want to BE A SPINSTER! I definetely don't want to act like one! God help me! Please!"
And so, it became clear to me that I had driven myself up Spinsterlane, and the first ones to get hit by me are my family, 'cos I don't show much of the real me when I am with my friends.
And you know what? I hated myself for behaving so immaturely. It was uncalled for, and certainly, not the most pleasant thing about me, who seemed like a nice girl to everyone in the world, 'cept my own family.
I must resolved this. I don't want it to argue with my family over minute things like that anymore.
But I really don't have any solutions to the no-dating situation. There's nothing much I can do.
I can only PRAY.
Labels: relationships, singapore men, Singapore women, singlehood
2 Comments:
Hi there, I just started to read your blog. I like your honest entries, got entertained through the posts. And it's a good basis to check on myself.
Praise God!
Alvin
Welcome, MOFW :) Thanks for stopping by. I only hope my sharing would shed some light to those who are going through/ will go through the same stuffs as I do, and hopefully, leave a positive dent in their lives.
Appreciate your comments, and if you will, keep them coming yah? ;)
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