Attempts To Manage Herself
With reference to my previous post on managing expectations:
I think the notion of managing my expectations is more like... Bear the consequences of the choices I made about expectations of others. If I have low expectations of people, I will be happier, and the people will probably be surprised why don't I get offended by their comments and actions, why am I so cooperatative. I will have more friends; people will see my low expectations as a worthy point as their friend, because I will never expect them to be perfect. I may compromise my pride and integrity so that others can be happy.
On the other hand, if I have high expectations of people, I will have lesser or no friends at all, because nobody is perfect; Others see the true side of me, of my intolerance of certain unacceptable behaviour or remarks; I will not be swayed to make compromising decisions because I am not ready to do things that do not meet my expectations or my ideals. I do not compromise my pride in the process. I can keep my dignity.
Will I be happy if I have high expectations? Maybe Yes, because I satisfy my own desires, my own way of doing things, my own targets, my own perfect world. It could be a No too. By pleasing myself, holding on to my ideals, being obstinate and stubborn, I make other people unhappy. Will I be happy then? Am I the kind of person who would be unhappy if others are unhappy?
By nature, I guess it is a No. But... I have come to a point that I must learn to stay neutral even if other people are unhappy. I can't please everyone. If I do, I would be stepped on and treaded on like dust. Because, people don't see this initiative as an effort. They see it as a given, that they deserve it. IMO at least.
Meanwhile, I am still struggling...
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Uniquely Singaporean Things (Part 1)
No, this is not a goverment propaganda. Just want to list down why is this country so different.
1) This was copied from The New Paper National Day write-up last year: Any lady who is more senior than us, we call them Aunty; any male who is senior that us are referred to as Uncle.
2) Our unique brand of humour. It's not American or British brand kinda humour. In fact, it's a bit on the rough side. Unpolished. Think Under One Roof, Phua Chu Kang in their earlier days. Yet, it gets us laughing. Because it's about us. In fact, I was inspired to write this when I saw repeated trailers of Singapore Idol. The humour is so Singaporean.
3) The Singapore version of broken English-speaking citizens: Ah Bengs and Ah Lians.
4) Homemade Ice-cream on rainbow-coloured bread. It was something new to an American friend when he came visit some years ago.
This are what I can think of for now.
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I think one of the reasons we blog is because finally we have a place to write anything ABOUT US. ABOUT OURSELVES and other things that concerns us. Kinda like a personal show and tell kinda things, isn't it?
I think the notion of managing my expectations is more like... Bear the consequences of the choices I made about expectations of others. If I have low expectations of people, I will be happier, and the people will probably be surprised why don't I get offended by their comments and actions, why am I so cooperatative. I will have more friends; people will see my low expectations as a worthy point as their friend, because I will never expect them to be perfect. I may compromise my pride and integrity so that others can be happy.
On the other hand, if I have high expectations of people, I will have lesser or no friends at all, because nobody is perfect; Others see the true side of me, of my intolerance of certain unacceptable behaviour or remarks; I will not be swayed to make compromising decisions because I am not ready to do things that do not meet my expectations or my ideals. I do not compromise my pride in the process. I can keep my dignity.
Will I be happy if I have high expectations? Maybe Yes, because I satisfy my own desires, my own way of doing things, my own targets, my own perfect world. It could be a No too. By pleasing myself, holding on to my ideals, being obstinate and stubborn, I make other people unhappy. Will I be happy then? Am I the kind of person who would be unhappy if others are unhappy?
By nature, I guess it is a No. But... I have come to a point that I must learn to stay neutral even if other people are unhappy. I can't please everyone. If I do, I would be stepped on and treaded on like dust. Because, people don't see this initiative as an effort. They see it as a given, that they deserve it. IMO at least.
Meanwhile, I am still struggling...
- - - - - - - - - -
Uniquely Singaporean Things (Part 1)
No, this is not a goverment propaganda. Just want to list down why is this country so different.
1) This was copied from The New Paper National Day write-up last year: Any lady who is more senior than us, we call them Aunty; any male who is senior that us are referred to as Uncle.
2) Our unique brand of humour. It's not American or British brand kinda humour. In fact, it's a bit on the rough side. Unpolished. Think Under One Roof, Phua Chu Kang in their earlier days. Yet, it gets us laughing. Because it's about us. In fact, I was inspired to write this when I saw repeated trailers of Singapore Idol. The humour is so Singaporean.
3) The Singapore version of broken English-speaking citizens: Ah Bengs and Ah Lians.
4) Homemade Ice-cream on rainbow-coloured bread. It was something new to an American friend when he came visit some years ago.
This are what I can think of for now.
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I think one of the reasons we blog is because finally we have a place to write anything ABOUT US. ABOUT OURSELVES and other things that concerns us. Kinda like a personal show and tell kinda things, isn't it?
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