A Very Different Friday Night
Met up with K. and PGH for dinner.
I thought it's quite a unique mix for dinner. K. messaged me earlier and wonders why does PGH wants to meet up with the both of us. I told her, I've met PGH for lunch before, nothing to be scared of lah. She was rather assured, cos she knows when I am around, things are not so intense. (Hehe.. goes to show how assuring my presence is, haha!)
So we met for dinner. Very cordial initially, we enquired about how each other is, what is happening to some members of the church, etc, etc. It was when we adjourned to food court for some dessert that the meat of the meet surfaced.
The common thread between K. and I is that we belong to the tier of church members who have been through the ups and downs of the church, and that we are of the same age range. One will be moving on to another church after the marriage, and as for me, PGH knows that I plan to move on too. So I guess thats the reason why PGH wants to meet up with us.
As we talked about what is happening in our lives, we begin to share of the situation currently in church. It has become a transition point for people, and more people are leaving. We shared about our needs and why we are taking the backbench. PGH, I can see, is genuinely concerned about the current situation, and wonders what can be done at this point in time to retain people.
As we talked about these things, I realised that my sentiments is not as strong as it was the last time I raised them. Perhaps because of what has happened. Or perhaps the withdrawal from the major activities has allowed me to simmer down. My stand is still the same, that church has to take care the needs of the members as an individual. We have too many activities. K. shared about doctrinal issues and her convictions as she questions Christianity, and how she found what she has been looking for in the new church.
On one hand, I am thankful that PGH notices this trend among the pastoral, and makes the initial contact to talk to us on these things. On the other hand, I wonder how much of the pastoral actually care about such things. My guess is that they are too overwhelmed with organising activities that issues such as these are not in their priority list. Even though they keep stressing that the church should not have too many activities that we neglect spiritual growth, they are still doing what they are preaching against. I just find it very ironic lor.
Anyway... I don't think I will want to be involved in church activities very much, even if I were to remain. Like what I told PGH, I want to re-learn to be relational to people and to God. I couldn't care less about activities this year.
Hmm... This Sunday, should I go visit some other church?
I thought it's quite a unique mix for dinner. K. messaged me earlier and wonders why does PGH wants to meet up with the both of us. I told her, I've met PGH for lunch before, nothing to be scared of lah. She was rather assured, cos she knows when I am around, things are not so intense. (Hehe.. goes to show how assuring my presence is, haha!)
So we met for dinner. Very cordial initially, we enquired about how each other is, what is happening to some members of the church, etc, etc. It was when we adjourned to food court for some dessert that the meat of the meet surfaced.
The common thread between K. and I is that we belong to the tier of church members who have been through the ups and downs of the church, and that we are of the same age range. One will be moving on to another church after the marriage, and as for me, PGH knows that I plan to move on too. So I guess thats the reason why PGH wants to meet up with us.
As we talked about what is happening in our lives, we begin to share of the situation currently in church. It has become a transition point for people, and more people are leaving. We shared about our needs and why we are taking the backbench. PGH, I can see, is genuinely concerned about the current situation, and wonders what can be done at this point in time to retain people.
As we talked about these things, I realised that my sentiments is not as strong as it was the last time I raised them. Perhaps because of what has happened. Or perhaps the withdrawal from the major activities has allowed me to simmer down. My stand is still the same, that church has to take care the needs of the members as an individual. We have too many activities. K. shared about doctrinal issues and her convictions as she questions Christianity, and how she found what she has been looking for in the new church.
On one hand, I am thankful that PGH notices this trend among the pastoral, and makes the initial contact to talk to us on these things. On the other hand, I wonder how much of the pastoral actually care about such things. My guess is that they are too overwhelmed with organising activities that issues such as these are not in their priority list. Even though they keep stressing that the church should not have too many activities that we neglect spiritual growth, they are still doing what they are preaching against. I just find it very ironic lor.
Anyway... I don't think I will want to be involved in church activities very much, even if I were to remain. Like what I told PGH, I want to re-learn to be relational to people and to God. I couldn't care less about activities this year.
Hmm... This Sunday, should I go visit some other church?
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